The 6 Main Forms Of Abuse

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1. PHYSICAL ABUSE

– any unwanted physcial attention
– kicking, punching, pushing, pulling, slapping, hitting, shaking
– cutting, burning
– pulling hair
– squeezing hand, twisting arm
– choking, smothering
– throwing “victim”, or throwing things at “victim”
– restraining, tying “victim” up
– forced feeding
– hitting “victim” with objects
– threatening to kill or injure “victim”
– ignoring “victim’s” illness or injury
– hiding necessary needs
– pressuring or tricking “victim” into something unwanted
– standing too close or using intimidation
– making or carrying out threats to hurt “victim”
– smashing things
– display of weapons as a means of intimidation

2. SEXUAL VIOLENCE/ABUSE

– any unwanted sexual contact
– forcing “vistim” to have sex, harrassing her for sex
– forcing “victim” to have sex with animals
– uttering threats to obtain sex
– pinching, slapping, grabbing, poking her breasts or genitals
– forcing sex when sick, childbirth or operation
– forcing “victim”to have sex with other men or women
– forcing “victim” to watch or participate in group sex
– knowingly transmitting sexual disease
– treating her as a sex object
– being “rough”
– pressuring “victim” to pose for pornogrpahic phot os
– displaying pornography that makes “vixtim” feel uncomfortable
– using sex as a basis for an argument
– using sex as a solution to an argument
– criticising sexual ability
– unwanted fondling in public
– accusation of affairs
– threatening to have sex with someone else if they don’t give sex
– demanding sex for payment or trade

3. VERBAL / EMOTIONAL / PSYCOLOGICAL ABUSE

– abusing pets
– verbal threats
– playing “mind games”
– making victim think she/he is stupid, or crazy
– humiliating “victim”
– overpowering “victim’s” emotions
– bringing up past issues
– inappropriate expression of jealousy
– degrading “victim”
– putting “victim” down
– blame the “victim” for things
– turning the situation against the “victim”
– laughing in “victim’s” face
– silence, ignoring “victim”
– refusing to do things with or for “victim”
– always getting own way
– neglecting “victim”
– pressuring “victim”
– expecting “victim” to conform to a role
– comparing “victim” to others
– making “victim” feel guilty un-nessisalially
– using certain mannerisms or behaviour as a means of control (eg. snapping fingers, pointing)
– manipulation
– holding grudges and not really forgiving
– threatening to leave or commit suicide
– having double standards for “victim”
– saying one thing and meaning another
– preventing “victim” from getting or taking a job
– minimising or disregarding “victim’s” work or accomplishments
– demanding an account of “victim’s” time/routine
– taking advantage of “victim’s” fear of something

4. SOCIAL ABUSE

– controlling what “victim” does, who “victim” sees, talks to, what “victim” reads and where “victim” goes
– not allowing victim to see or access to family and friends
– change of personality when around others (abuser)
– being rude to “victim’s” friends or family
– dictating “victim’s” dress and behaviour
– choosing “victim’s” friends
– making a “scene” in public
– censoring “victim’s” mail
– treating “victim” like a servant
– not giving victim space or privacy

5. ECONOMIC / FINANCIAL ABUSE

– taking “victim’s” money
– withholding money
– not allowing “victim” money
– keeping family finances a secret
– spending money foolishly
– not paying fair share of bills
– not spending money of special occasions when able (birthdays etc)
– Conning “victim” out of money
– not letting “victim” have access to family income

6. SPIRITUAL / RELIGIOUS ABUSE

– using scripture to justify or dominance
– using church position to pressure for sex or favours
– using “victim”, then demanding forgiveness
– interpresting religion or scripture your way
– preventing victim from attending church
– mocking victim’s belief’s